Monday, June 29, 2015
Monday, June 22, 2015
|Daddy & his two children!|
My dear old Dad is the best thing since sliced bread. He has been there for me in so many ways over the years. Many of the people I know are fatherless or have fathers that are 'dead beats'. I am so thankful my Dad always stuck around to give me the love and support a daughter needs. I admire him so much, from his generosity to witty personality! I am who I am today in large part because of my loving father!
My parents weren't married growing up, so I never had the privilege of living with my Dad until I was older. I watch my husband and the love he shows our girls at their young age and it melts my heart. Being a girl myself, I personally know the effect a father has on his daughter. The confidence and acceptance he provides her with. Our girls are so blessed to have their Daddy. And my little son has an amazing role model!
|Me & My Daddy|
Words can't express my gratitude to Jesus Christ for saving me. How He has stood by my side through the ups and downs over the years. His faithfulness and willingness to forgive blow my mind. His patience with me and kindness towards me are enough to bring tears to my eyes.
How people live without the father is beyond me. Because where men may fail our Lord never does!
I am so thankful for their influence in my life. They inspire me to be a better me and make me feel loved and cherished!
Thursday, June 18, 2015
Ugghh kind of annoys me a bit!
Why? There is such a stigma that comes with being a PK.
My oldest is only 11, so I am no veteran in the raising children in the ministry department, but I will share what I have learned thus far and wisdom gleaned from others :D
1) If you love it...so will they! I notice my daughters ALWAYS want to go at church and be at church. They love Gods people and spending time with them. I truly believe their love for church stems from their parents. We don't gripe, or complain about church or going. Not because we hide that from them, we just genuinely enjoy church and the people of God. I believe that rubs off on the kiddo's.
2)They still need your attention. Remember when I said it was hard to share your husband with the church, well kids have an even harder time sharing their parents. Since we have such busy schedules I do my very best not to plan to much in the week. I notice my children have a difficult time when we have people over and they need to go bed and don't get the usually mommy attention as per norm. Though I don't want my kids growing up thinking the world revolves around them, I do try and bare in mind that i'ts hard for them if mommy or daddy are out every night with church folk or doing ministry related activities.
3)Let them grow on their own. As i said my oldest is only 11...so i have no idea if this works, just something my hubby and I have chosen to do. We don't force our kids to be christians. We don't inundate them with scripture memorization, or family devotions (though I know some that have and it turned out wonderfully) Our thought its that we don't want Jesus to be common to them. Which is super easy for the pk because they grew up in it. Someone from our church shared how he grew up with bible stories and they meant nothing to him but simply that...a story. Am I saying we don't teach our children scriptures or read bible stories...not at all. But our approach is more from letting them witness our lives. If I am praying there is an option to join me. And my main topic with my children is salvation and them getting saved. Because I don't ever want them to assume they are saved because they grew up in church and do good things!
4) PRAY PRAY PRAY! When all else fails, the prayers of the righteous availeth much! I count on prayer to guide help and direct my children. Not our own weak, imperfect parenting abilities. I always pray God would reveal himself personally to my children. The bible says "taste and see that the Lord is good" not hear and see that the Lord is good! I know once my children get their own taste of Christ they will serve Him. Until them I plant seed, water and pray that those seeds grow!
5) No favoritism:We treat our children just like any other children in the church. The same rules that apply for everyone else apply for them. While this may be challenging, this is important, especially as they get older. Pk's can easily get a complex that they are "above" the law so to speak because dear old dad runs the church. I NEVER EVER want my children to get that idea. They will be held to the same standard as everyone else. That's not only good for them, but gives you credibility among your church members. You never want your precious church to feel that you treat your own better than everyone else. Even though its natural to want to, being in the ministry you just can't do that! At least when it comes to church and church affairs. Of course personal things are up to you...but when it comes to ministry guidelines, standards and church practice your children need to adhere to the same rules as EVERYONE else.
We have a rule in our church that if you arr late you don't minister on platform. I was late one day and I went to my ministry leader (song service leader) and said I was late and maybe the back up pianist should play. I was given grace...being 9 months pregnant, but he said to me "Does that rule even apply to you?" I said "of course it does, i am no better than you!" If anything I should have a stricter standard. I can't expect something of others that I don't expect of myself and the same goes of our kids. If we don't want other kids running up and down the church, we can't let our children. If we want other children to be respectful we must first teach our own children.
Well those are my two cents! HAHA!
Hope you have enjoyed my little minstry series!
I have learned so much in 6 short years...and look forward to learning MUCH MUCH MORE!
Please do share your own thoughts and ideas on children and ministry! Would love to hear!'
Tuesday, June 2, 2015
I am married to a Preacher of the Gospel!
If someone would have told me in highschool that I would marry a Pastor I would have found that quite humorous!
Sunday after Sunday, Wednesday after Wednesday I watch my husband get up and preach Gods word to a room filled with people. I sit in the very back row on the end often with a smile on my face. Proud to be able to call that man my husband.
At the end of the day being married to a pastor is like being married to any other man!
I remember once a sister came over and shared how she felt being married to a pastor would be wierd!
Like he's just going to come home and start preaching to his family, or quoting scripture all the time.
I assured her it's not like that, ironically that day my husband did come home talking about church and church affairs! LOL But over all he's the same man...just with responsibilities.
Before I married my husband, I knew he wanted to be a preacher! I was heavily warned that I better make sure I was on board,because I did not want to "hinder" his calling! I must admit I took the warning lightly. Not that I ever planned to be a hinderance, I just didn't understand all it would entail.
People say all you have to do as a PW is play piano, keep a good home, look pretty on sundays and be nice to people. I would say there is more to it than that!
Being married to a Pastor you need to be STRONG...physically, spiritually and emotionally. I think this area isn't emphasized enough. I salute any pw out there...the struggle is real!!
Somehow once you enter the PW club, often attacks come against your body. You have to remember you are now the devils number one target! I have had more health problems in 6 years of having a church than my husband has in his life.
I have had to learn to be strong and suck up my health issues sometimes. Not easy at all...but necessary!
As a PW the only person that's going to make sure you are fed spiritually is... well...you! Yes there is always your husband's sermons but let's face it...if you're not happy with the man behind the pulpit...chances are what he is preaching won't touch your heart. I have to make sure I am daily getting myself filled with Gods word. I listen to sermons online, do my own personal bible studies and devotions just to keep myself spiritually sound. It's very easy to get religious and just go through the motions as a PW. The scary thing is, no one would ever know. Everyone assumes you're doing well spiritually as a PW....even your husband can. So take dominion in this area...would be so sad to be a pastors wife the ended up in hell :( but I think it could be a reality for many a PW because how easy is it to get bitter in the ministry and let your heart go unchecked! Don't let that be you!!
Some women, I believe have more strength than others in this area. Some are prone to emotional breakdowns and out bursts...while others take things with a grain of salt. Being sound and stable emotionaly during an unsound and unstable situation is NOT easy for most...but needed! I am not suggesting being a fake and never showing your emotions... But you do need to learn to keep it together. Not only for the churches sake, but your family and husband will benefit too. A way I try and keep it together is think to myself 'this will pass' 'how profitable is it for me to freak out right now?' ' will this be a big issue in a day,week, year?'. While tears have never hurt anyone, outbursts of anger, cattiness and moodiness will! So if your heavily annoyed, or upset, go lock your butt in a bathroom and get it together before you do more harm than good!!
After 6 years of being a PW it's been quite the roller coaster...I always remind myself, I am here to be a blessing and a support to my husband. Never allow the church to drive a wedge in your marriage. The devil will attempt to do that...my next post will be on marriage & ministry!
Love you my PW's!
And if your not...know we love you and we solicit and need your prayers and love too! Xoxo
Or he mentions you in his sermon and the entire church looks
back at you...this is why I should sit at the front LOL
Since becoming a PW I have had my share of odd, awkward and not so fun moments...I thought I would share
People will go to my husband and tell him something and then expect he told me. Then the moment comes up and I am standing there with a dumbfounded look on my face thinking 'ohh I had no idea' hate when that happens...
Sometimes you are close with some sisters and you talk with them quite regularly. Only to find out they told hubby something first instead of you. Or worse they didn't even tell you, but everyone else knows!! Not that you're upset(well maybe a little)...you just think 'uh okkkayy, just wondering why you didn't come tell me?
I have mentioned this is past blogs...but what if I am having an off day...you say my name and title and immediately guess who has to be bright eyed and bushy tailed. Some days I just want to be me. So next time if someone asks who the pastors wife is...'she's around somewhere' even if I am standing right there! HAHAHAHAH
We can't take any sides...even if we wanted to! SO we just tell you the best thing we can "talk to pastor" LOL-
Can we go home now?
I will have to do a post on Married to a Pastor...but let me tell you after church if you want to go home right away...kisss that idea goodbye! LOL Hubby always has someone to talk to, counsel or just greet! And while I have my share of people to talk to after service, pastor is always most popular! Meaning home time won't be for another hour...or two! HAHA
Those are a few of the awkward moments and peevs I have had during the ministry!
Stay tuned for PW Perks! :)